Never Underestimate The Influence Of Self-love.

Reprogramming One’s Mind and Actions to Achieve Self-Love

To achieve Self-love is to change your negative thought patterns by reprogramming your mind. Our data (memories) can become corrupted, obsolete, outdated, and virus-like infected. Just like a computer or any other technological device.

People format their computers and other technological devices, so why don’t we? We need to upgrade our own operating systems (brains) throughout our journey through life.

We hold a lot of deep-seated thoughts and data in our subconscious minds. That our analytical conscious mind is not even aware of. A deep cleansing or a defrag might be all that is needed.

To achieve reprogramming of your brain or de-fragmentation of your software. These are some activities that may assist you.

  • Mantras
  • Meditations
  • Mindfulness
  • Self-affirmations
  • Practicing self-love
  • Listening to binaural beats
  • Self-hypnosis or hypnotherapy
  • Energy healing and chakra balancing
  • Listening or reading self-improvement books
  • Staying positive and surrounding yourself with high vibrational people

Some recommended authors and/or artists that you can Google, YouTube, or visit your local library or bookstore.

  • Dr. Joe Dispenza
  • Louise Hay
  • Rhonda Byrne
  • Anthony Williams
  • Eckhart Tolle
  • Deepak Chopra
  • Dr. Wayne Dyer
  • Steve Nobel
  • Many more

You are also invited to reach out to me for any self-hypnosis or self-help sessions. Any healing modalities that can be customised to your specific requirements. If money is a factor, YouTube will become your new best friend. As there is a wealth of free informational videos and meditations.

There is no one more important than “you’,” so treat yourself as your very own best friend. Be kind, caring, loving, and nurturing to yourself. The more that you put into yourself, the more that your loved ones will also benefit from your new-found awesomeness.

I can guarantee that it is not selfish to care for your own needs. We cannot simply run on empty and give out 100% to our partners, children, families, and friends.

This is a very common mistake that many parents or carers make. When a person does not invest in themselves, their loved ones are affected by this too. Especially if you are overworked, tired, stressed, or have relationship issues. This sets up behavioural patterns for their children or the people that they care for. This is a form of programming pattern that usually creates childhood trauma.

When a person has no family or friends’ support, reprogramming a mindset is harder to achieve. Try to join a support network group or see what community services may be available to you.

Forgiveness is an Act of Self-love:

It is very important to forgive yourself and others. As it is really important for your overall health. Everything is energy, even our thoughts. Emotional blockages can create illnesses in our physical and mental bodies. It is not necessarily to tell someone that you have forgiven them, especially if they were in the wrong. It will likely stroke their ego and give them permission to repeat the same old patterns.

Forgiving and removing yourself from toxic situations or people improves one’s life. It empowers you to be the empress or emperor of your life. You are no longer a victim of your past. The past creates depression, other illnesses, and toxic behaviours. Living in the future can create anxiety, so just live for the now.

Examples of Non-Forgiveness:

A client had a father who sexually abused her, throughout her life and held onto resentment. She continued to have the most toxic relationships with men throughout her life… She asked me, “Why can I not find the right relationship for myself?” She was adamant with me that she had forgiven her dad, so strongly that she got mad with me when I suggested the reason as to why… Anger is caused by fear. This usually stems from not accepting a situation — not healing and moving on from it…

Has she forgiven her dad? That was a hard no.

After a relative of mine died, I found out that everything that I knew about this relative was a complete lie. My thoughts constantly went over and over every accusation they had ever made against me. The things that I was blamed for that I had never committed. For years afterward, I looked at everyone and wondered if they were telling me the truth.

Had I truly forgiven them? That was a hard no, too.

Signs of a Deep-Seated Refusal to Forgive:

  • Fear of being afraid.
  • Anger towards yourself and others.
  • Mistrust yourself and others.
  • Being critical of yourself and others
  • Rejection feelings.

If you are doing the same thing over and over again and you end up with the very same disastrous results. You need to work on forgiveness in addition to all the other steps outlined in this article.

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Raising Your Vibrations:

Be the very best version of yourself. Be:

  • Truthful
  • Kind
  • Loving
  • Forgiving
  • Non-judgemental
  • Understanding
  • Be mindful of any addictions or toxic behaviours that you may have.

When your vibrations rise, you will be able to develop a different view of your life. Everything becomes more achievable. Your problems will no longer be the centre of attention in your life.

What was once an elephant-sized problem will now be seen as the size of an ant.

To achieve a higher vibrational level of consciousness, it’s very important to be in full awareness of the environments that you place yourself in. Also, pay attention to the vibrations of the people and activities that you partake in. Stay in a positive mindset and you will attract higher vibrational friends.

Distancing yourself from any negativity, pessimism, or people who drain your energy is key. When a person leaves you feeling tired, drained, and with a headache, you’ve been around an energy vampire.

The Five Selves:

The most important relationship that you will ever have is with yourself. It is recommended that we commit to our self-awareness, self-confidence, self-worth, self-esteem, and self-care. These are the five main foundations that one needs to have a strong and healthy love, for oneself.

Below is what one needs to incorporate into their everyday life. This helps to balance ourselves on an emotional, physical, and spiritual level.

  • Self-awareness is the state of being conscious. An awareness of one’s own existence, sensations, thoughts, and surroundings.
  • Self-confidence is having confidence in one’s own judgement and abilities.
  • Self-worth is the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.
  • Self-esteem is defined by realistic respect for or a favourable impression of oneself.
  • Self-care is the act of attending to one’s physical, mental health, and spiritual self.
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According to a medical source, “Not feeling self-love” is an indication of being emotionally neglected as a child.” 

Don’t get me wrong. I am not damning your parents or caregivers. I am confident that they have done their best to the best of their abilities and under the circumstances of their lives. Plus, we are all wired differently and our emotional levels vary from one person to another. Some people cannot feel emotions, as they are entrapped in their own trauma. Who are we to judge?

You are simply responsible for your own life. So start nurturing your inner child and practising self-love advice, which will change your life. Accept your own strengths and weaknesses and be that supportive parent to yourself. Allow yourself to cry and then move on from the past. You don’t need to go down that very dark rabbit hole to try to understand why things happened. Do not live in your past, as it is very dead energy, which is the cord of thoughts that you are holding onto.

Now, take the brave steps that you need to take. Live in the now , the present. Embrace the miracles and opportunities that will come your way on this journey.

P.S… If you did have really shitty parents or caregivers, you do need a double dosage of forgiveness.

Thank You:

Dear beautiful souls, Thank you for allowing me to be your guiding light on your path to self-love. I appreciate the time you’ve taken to spend with me. I would be honoured and grateful for any feedback you could provide. I am also open to ideas for future posts.

If no one has told you today that you are honoured and loved, I am filling that void for you right now. Because you are cherished.

With Blessings and love – Sherry 💚

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